Thursday, February 16, 2012

Bully in the making

Look at the first picture. That is my Dayana's drawing for her art class. But if you look again very carefully, you'll notice that someone wrote improper and rude words. In case you can't read it, let me tell you what the words are; Pepe* and Kamu makan bab* bab*. The girl who wrote these is an Iban girl sitting in front of Dayana. She even wrote the P word on Dayana's desk. I was waiting for that girl named Julia in her class this morning when I noticed a book with writings which you can see on the second photo. This really pissed me off when I read it! I was so angry and when I saw the girl (everybody in the class knows that I'm waiting for Julia and they pointed Julia to me when she entered the class) I asked her to read what she wrote on Dayana's drawing book. She just kept silence at first and when I demanded her to read it out loud, she read it with a whisper. I asked her why she wrote those words and she just kept silence again. I asked her whether Dayana had done something wrong to her, she shook her head. I asked whether Dayana had ever say any of the words to her, she shook her head again. Then, I show her the second book that she wrote. She bit her lips. I asked her, what is that? She kept silence. AGAIN. I asked her if she have any problem with Dayana being a Muslim and not eating 'the b thing', she shook her head. I told her that this is the kind of thing that will make you turn out to be a racist and a bully. I told her that she can't continuosly saying that to Dayana and she have to respect Dayana and other Muslim students who doesn't eat that thing. I even asked her if she wants to eat that right now, I'll go and buy for her! She shook her head. I also scolded her for writing the P word on Dayana's book and desk and told her that the P thing is a discreet thing and should just be keep inside her panty and not on other people's book or desk. I even talk to her in Iban to make sure she understands everything that I say. I told her, if she keeps on doing this, she'll be a very big bully and will always be in trouble. I told her that I will talk to her parents and the teacher and she shook her head. I asked her to rub those nasty words and she did. I can see that she was raised in an improper surroundings because of her shabby appearance. She maybe neglected by her parents because some of the other parents told me that the girl is naughty and when she arrived at the class, she just throws her back and roaming around til the bell rings, then she'll come back to class. They also told me that the girl doesn't perform very well in her studies and also get scolded by the teachers.
My point in this case is I don't want my daughter to learn bad words from her friends because at home, we never say those words. If any adult at my home accidently cursing or swearing the bad words, I'll tell my children that those words are bad and rude and I'll chilli the person's lips (this is to show them how bad those words are). My second point is, I want my daughter to see that these kind of attitude will grow even worse and make the person becomes a bad person in the future. I told her that we need to respect other people's religion and their beliefs and never argue with them about their religion's teaching because religion is a sensitive issue. My third point is I don't want my daughter to be a bully victim and makes her scared to go to school. I want her to know that I will do anything to protect her. This also goes the same with all of my children. I believe that if every parents do their best in bringing up their children, there will never be a problem of racism or other negative things (yes, we can see the best example from the viral video about the KFC at iCity).
On my way back to my car, I stumbled with Dayana's teacher. I tried to look for her the first thing when I reached school but she haven't arrived yet. I told her about the incident and show her the proof and she promised to take action. I hope that this incident will be a very good lesson for these students. PEACE NO WAR!

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Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Kek Lapis Betawi Diva

The original color of this cake is plain (the color of the batter) but I add in pink color as per requested by my children. The taste is distinctive because of the special 'rempah kuih'. I bought my rempah kuih at Brunei and it is quite pricey because it's imported fron Singapore; $2.95 for a 15g bottle. This is also my first time of baking a Kek Lapis with baking powder and cream of tartar. I was sceptical at first but after looking at the marvellous outcome of the came, this cake is definitely going to be one of my favorite and I'll bake it for this coming Hari Raya, Insya Allah. Before you try this making this cake, I would like to remind you that it needs extra work, unlike the normal cake lapis but the process of 'melapis' is super easy.

Ingredients:

A.
300 gm butter
150 gm castor sugar
6 tbsp of condensed milk
1 tsp vanilla essence
14 egg yolks

Beat butter with sugar and condensed milk til white and fluffy. Add in vanilla essence and egg yolks, one at a time while beating it continuosly til it's well mix.

B.
7 egg whites
150 gm castor sugar
1/4 tsp cream of tartar

In a different bowl, beat egg whites til it's foamy. Add in sugar and cream of tartar and beat it for about 5 minutes or until it's fluffy but please don't overbeat it. Then pour this batter inside the butter batter and mix well.

C.
200 gm Hong Kong flour (normal flour will do)
2 tsp rempah kuih
1 tsp baking powder

Add in all flour, rempah kuih and baking powder into the butter batter and mix well.

Lined a 8" x 8" tray and do the first layer with 4 tbsp of batter. Use upper and lower heat for the first layer and after it's brown and cook, add in the second layer, also 4 tbsp and use upper heat through out the last layer. When all layers are done, cover the cake with aluminium foil as to prevent the top layer from being too dark and cook it for about 1/2 hour using upper and lower heat. All laywr cake uses 150-160 degrees celcius heat.

P/S: Always Remember to preheat the oven using upper and lower heat at 150-160 degrees celcius for layer cake.

I divide my batter to 2, one is plain color and one is pink color. You can skip this by making this cake with its original color of the batter or even change the color that you like.

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Thursday, December 22, 2011

My confinement for the 6th time!

On the 23rd of November 2011, at 7.32pm, I gave birth to my 6th baby, Desheya Bisharah Binti Buna, a beautiful baby girl at 2.7kg. She was born at 36 weeks 6 days gestation week and that made her categorized under borderline preemie. My husband picked the name for her (I picked for the other 5) and her name meant Desheya: good day, Bisharah: a female narrator of Hadith.
I was 1 cm dilated when I checked with my doctor that day and he suggested me to induce labor because he knows that I don't have anybody to help me at home with the kids (he delivered all of my children except for my first born Dayana) and the baby is in a good size for her gestation age. I agreed and after 5 hours, I gave birth to Desheya, and without fail for the 6th time too, my loving husband was beside me at the whole time.
I exclusively breastfed Desheya until now, and will breastfeed her til she's 2 years old or until my breastmilk runs out - which is usually the case every time I'm pregnant with the next baby. Tomorrow is my last day of confinement, which is the 30th day! Hooray! It's not that I'm really in confinement. I don't have anybody to help me and my husband only took 1 week off. My sister help me for 4 days and my brother help me in the morning for the first week only because his wife also gave birth to a baby boy, 2 weeks before me. I was on my own. I cook, I clean, I wash, I do every housework that I usually do and still have to care for all 6 of my children.
So, I have to take extra initiative to help myself regain energy and health during my confinement days, as I have to care for myself. I eat chicken cook with kacang ma (motherwort) herb for 14 days straight to warm me up from the inside and I took Sendayu Tinggi's Amme 60 Days pills. I also take GNC's fenugreek supplement to boost my breast milk production. I used the traditional corset / bengkung to warm my stomach and I asked my regular tukang urut / massager to massage me on the 7th day and 30th day.
I bathe with 7 types of traditional jungle products (leaves and branches) which my brother bought from the open air market at Miri for 20 days. I only remember some of the names of the leaves; daun serai wangi, tepus meroyan, daun sembung. The leaves have to boil first before the water can be use for bath. After 2 weeks, I started to exercise a little bit and now, after 30 days, I lost 6 kg. I gain 9 kg during my pregnancy, so I need to lose another 3 kg (but my target is another 5 kg).

Bath herbs

Sendayu Tinggi's confinement set

I sleep with socks and for the first 2 weeks, I cover my head with a head gear and use long sleeves or jacket to cover my body from cold air that is not good for women after child birth. I'm looking forward to my post natal check up on the 5th of January so that I can proceed to make baby number 7! Hahaha.. Just kidding. But if Allah gives me another baby, I will accept it with open heart and open arms! :)
So, for those mums out there who don't have anyone to help during your confinement days, don't worry! Always wake up with positive attitude and energy and you wouldn't feel helpless and always remember to take herbs and take care of yourselves in order for you to take care of your family.

Monday, October 17, 2011

Danish Bisyari's Kindergarten's Graduation Day Performance

Yesterday, 16th October 2011, was Danish's kindergarten Graduation Day. He is still in level 1 so he didn't get anything but he was to performed a group dance of Doraemon's theme song (Chinese version). I'm so proud of him. If you notice the video, there's a part when his Doraemon's face fell down from his shirt and his friends gather around him to help him to put the face back on the shirt. That part makes tears streaming from my eyes because it shows that even though they are 5 years olds, but they have a very high spirit of friendship. Anyway, enjoy the video.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

The Virtues of Pregnancy in Islam

I went for my fortnight pregnancy check up last night and as usual, the whole gang (hubby with our 5 kids) accompanied me. I am 30 weeks pregnant now and the baby is 'still' a girl , according to the scan image. the baby is very healthy and very active! I thank Allah for that. So, after the check up, we went to Parkson at Bintang Megamall to use up our RM30 voucher that will expire on this Friday. The kids gets small toys each and Dayana (my eldest child) bought herself a laptop toy using her money rewards that she got from her fasting days. She even bought me towel flower for my upcoming birthday. Thanks, love!

After we arrived home, I asked all of them to sleep especially those elder two because it's school nights and after the smaller ones were finally asleep, I wind up, relaxing on the bed, doing some reading over the internet with my Blackberry. This 6th pregnancy is the most tired pregnancy that I ever had because beside of being pregnant, I need to take care of 5 other children ranging from 7 years old to 17 months old. How tiring is that! My body is always aching but I still have to do the usual house chores that a housewife needs to do. But thanks to the Osim and Ogawa massage machines (not the expensive 'chair') that my hubby bought, I can at least relax and massage the aching muscles on my body.

I read about pregnancy and I came across this interesting article of the virtues of pregnancy in Islam. I would like to share this with all the readers out there as an information, or even as an eye opener for those wives who doesn't want to be pregnant! Believe me, in this modern days, some women are busy upgrading their career and doesn't want to have a child. But who knows, maybe after reading this, these women will have a change in their hearts. Insya Allah.

SOURCE: http://www.shariahprogram.ca/women-islam/virtues-of-pregnancy.shtml

THE VIRTUES OF PREGNANCY

· When a woman is pregnant with a child, all the angels will make Istighfar (repentance) on her behalf. Allah SWT will, for each day of her pregnancy, write for her 1000 good deeds and erase from her 1000 bad deeds.

· When a pregnant woman starts to feel the pain from contractions, Allah SWT will write in her records as someone who is doing jihad (spiritual or physical struggle) in His path.

· When a woman becomes pregnant by her husband and he is pleased with her, she obtains the reward of a person engaging in fasting for Allah SWT and a person spending the night in ibaadah (worship).

· A woman from the time of pregnancy until childbirth and weaning the baby, is like the Mujahid (someone fighting in the path of Allah, swa) who is stationed on the frontiers of the Islamic land. If she dies during this period, she dies the death of a shahid (martyr).

· Two raka'at salaat performed by a pregnant woman is better than 80 raka'at salaat performed by a non-pregnant woman.

· A woman who is pregnant gets the reward of fasting during the day and of doing ibaadah (worship) during the nights.

· A woman who gives birth gets the reward of 70 years of salaat (prayer) and fasting. For each vein that feels pain, Allah SWT gives her the reward of one accepted hajj (Pilgrimage to Makkah).

· If the woman dies within 40 days of giving birth, she will die as a shahid (matyr).
(Hadith)......."A woman that dies in her virginity or during her pregnancy or at the time of birth or thereafter (in nifaas) will attain the rank of a martyr"
Nabi(salalaallahu alayhi wassallam) is reported to have also said ".......When her labour pains commence, the inhabitants of the earth and the sky are unaware of the stores of comfort that are prepared for her. When she delivers and breast feeds her child, then she will be granted a reword for every gulp of milk, if she had to remain awake during the night for the sake of the child, she will receive the reword of emancipating seventy slaves in the path of Allah Ta'ala. O Salaamat! Do you know who these women are? They are pious, upright, with a delicate nature yet obedient to their husbands and not ungrateful to them"

Sunday, September 18, 2011

Another story of a CRUEL MOM!

Source: dailymail.co.uk

Mother, 25, whom nobody knew was pregnant gave birth to twin boys on parents' toilet, smothered them and hid them in laundry basket

By RACHEL QUIGLEY

Last updated at 2:55 PM on 16th September 2011

Lindsey Lowe, from Tennessee, has been charged with first-degree murder in the death of her newborn twin boys

A young mother charged with murder has told police she hid her pregnancy, gave birth to twin sons at her family's home and killed the infants by smothering their cries so her parents wouldn't hear them.

Police in the affluent Nashville suburb of Hendersonville arrested Lindsey Lowe, 25, on Wednesday after her father discovered one baby's body in a laundry basket.

According to a police affidavit, the young mother said she didn't tell her family she was pregnant, but believes she got pregnant in January and never visited a doctor.

Police said on Thursday they were trying to identify the father of the twins.

When they interviewed Lowe, she told them she went into labour on Monday evening while on the toilet at her parent's home. She said the first baby fell into the toilet and began to cry.

'Lowe stated that the baby was crying and Lowe did not want her parents to hear and find out about the child,' police wrote in the affidavit. 'Lowe stated that she put her hand over the child's mouth and she stated that she kept it there until the child was dead, which was a couple of minutes.'

A few minutes later, the affidavit says, she gave birth to the second child, who also fell in the toilet. She again put her hand over the baby's mouth and held it there until the baby died, which she said took less time than the first child. She put both babies in the laundry basket and covered them up with blankets.

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Lowe's father called police yesterday after finding a deceased infant in his daughter's room

Lt Scott Ryan said: 'A child was found deceased in a part of the bedroom that you wouldn't normally find a child and that was suspicious in and of itself'

Lowe said she never checked the sex of the child. Police said both boys appeared to be full term and weighing about 5 or 6 pounds.

The 25-year-old, who works at a paediatric dentist's office, was charged with first-degree murder and remained in jail Thursday with no bond. Police said she is undergoing a medical evaluation.

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Police Lt Scott Ryan said on Thursday that he didn't know how she hid the pregnancy, just saying that she didn't tell anyone. He would not say whether Lowe was helping them to identify the father.

Lt Ryan said women with unwanted pregnancies have several options, including a safe haven law that allows newborns to be dropped off at places like hospitals and police stations.

'No matter how bleak the outlook may be for you, let someone help you out,' Ryan said.

The 25-year-old graduated from Western Kentucky University with a degree in interior design in 2008, according to a university spokesman.

There was no answer at Lowe's two-story brick home in an upscale cul-de-sac in Hendersonville in Middle Tennessee.

But another young mother said she could not believe what had happened at their usually quiet neighbourhood.

She told News Channel 5: 'You never would have thought that would happen two houses down.'

Another neighbour said: 'I wanted to throw up. I was seriously nauseated to my stomach, I have a baby, I love her. I'd do anything for her.

'To know that somebody couldn't take the time to love a child and would do something like that just tears me apart.'

The father, who reportedly did not know his daughter was pregnant, found a newborn baby in her bedroom, apparently hidden and lifeless.

Lt Ryan told Channel 5: 'Will always remember this day and the events. It's very sad our heart goes out to the mother the rest of her family and to those children who didn't have a chance at life.'

Totally Inhuman! Mother surfed internet while 12 years old son kills his 2 years old brother

This is just too horrific! What kind of mother is this woman? Read it for yourself and judge it!

Source: dailymail.co.uk

Mother 'surfed internet for Pippa, the Beckhams and more for four hours as her two-year-old son lay beaten and dying'

Boy's brother Cristian Fernandez, 12, charged as an adult over the murder
Mother Biannela Susana charged with manslaughter

By PAUL THOMPSON

Last updated at 5:28 PM on 16th September 2011

A mother spent hours surfing the internet while her two-year-old son lay dying after being beaten savagely by his 12-year-old half-brother, prosecutors claim.

Biannela Susana waited almost four hours before seeking medical help for her son David Galarriago after he had been beaten unconscious.

The 25-year-old looked at sites about Pippa Middleton and David and Victoria Beckham, was on email and did online banking as her son lay critically injured.

Biannela Susana is charged with manslaughter and Christian Fernandez murder for the death of her son David, 2. She spent four hours surfing the web after Christian allegedly beat David before seeking medical help

Prosecutors said she was aware of the injuries to her son as she looked at medical sites to try and get information about child concussions.

She also spent time on the Wikipedia page for 'coma'.

Prosecutors said by the time her son was rushed to hospital it was too late to save him due to severity of his injuries.

Cristian Fernandez, 12, could become America's youngest ever 'lifer' after being charged as an adult over the murder of his brother at their home in Jacksonville, Florida, last June.

Fernandez is accused of slamming his brother's head into a book shelf causing the toddler to die from blunt force trauma.

The youngster was branded a danger to the public when prosecutors brought the first degree murder charge. He had broken his brother's leg in a previous assault and had a history of violence.

As her son lay unconscious, Susana googled for music videos and information about celebrities like the Beckhams and Pippa Middleton

She also searched for information on concussions and what to do 'when someone gets knocked out'

Announcing the adult murder charge against the 12-year-old State Attorney Angela Corey said;' 'It's one where you go, at what point do you step in, so you prevent another murder, and that's how we felt in this case.

'If we don't intervene now and do the tough thing. We have to protect the public from this young man.'

A 200-page report by investigators has revealed how the boys' mother spent four hours on the internet while her son lay dying.

As well as looking at celebrity sites, Susana also watched YouTube and went to a music download website and looked at songs off of an album called 'My Destiny.'

Police said Susana had logged on to the computer at 10.54 and her last search was after 3pm, after which she finally called for medical help

If Cristian is convicted he could become America's youngest ever 'lifer' after being charged as an adult over the murder

A forensic examination of her laptop computer showed that she googled the phrase 'when someone gets knocked out' at 10.54am. She went to a site about concussion 11 times during a 20 minute period.

As well as viewing celebrity sites she also did some online banking before looking up the website for St Luke's Hospital where he son would be taken.

Police said Susana had logged on to the computer at 10.54 and her last search was after 3pm.

Doctors have said her son might have survived had he been taken to hospital soon after being knocked unconscious.

His injuries were so severe when he was admitted to St Luke's Hospital that he was flown by helicopter to Shands Jacksonville hospital's trauma unit where he died two days later without regaining consciousness.

Susana has been charged with aggravated manslaughter.