Lobster Masak Percik

Hahahahha.. The title of this recipe is funny because I don't know what's percik in English. I cook this for lunch today and I can't wait to dig in but first, I have to post this entry to share it virtually for all my readers.
It'll be a hit instantly! Hahahahha...

          Diva Lobster Masak Percik


1 kg lobster / udang galah - cleaned and sliced on the center top
1 big onion
3 cloves of garlic
5 cm ginger
6 pcs bird eye chili / cili padi
Sugar, seasoning and salt to taste
5 cm turmeric or 2 tbsp of turmeric powder
1 cup coconut milk or fresh cream milk
2 tbsp tamarind juice or 1 tbsp tamarind paste


1. Fry the lobster on a non sticking pan or griddle, without any oil until it's half cooked. Put in on a baking tray.
2. Blend all the onion, garlic, ginger, turmeric, chili. tamarindand coconut milk/milk.
3. Cook it for a while on the pan or griddle that you have used to fry the lobster, just until it starts to boil. Turn of the heat and pour it on the lobster inside the baking tray.
4. Cook it in a preheated oven at 180 degrees celsius for 10 minutes. I put mine in a microwave for 10 minutes using heating mode.
5. Serve warm with hot rice. Nice!!!

Diva Pancake

I woke up quite late today because last night, baby Darwish was cranky and uncomfortably crying because he was down with measles. After giving shower to all of the kids, I went down to make breakfast. I made pancakes, and you can drizzle it with chocolate syrup, honey, maple syrup, condensed milk or even spread it with kaya. Enjoy!

          
Diva Pancakes


300 ml / 1 1/2 - 2 cups flour
4 eggs
2 tbsp sugar
1/2 cup water
300 ml / 1 1/2 cups milk
2 tbsp melted butter
1 tbsp shortening (to make it fluffier but you can skip this)
1 tsp green coloring
1 tsp baking powder


1. Whisk eggs with sugar. Add in butter. Whisk again.
2. Add in milk and water. Stir well.
3. Add in flour and baking powder. Whisk again.
5. Add in coloring then cook it batch by batch, a ladle at a time, on a griddle or a non stick pan. Make sure the heat is low. For the first batch, drizzle a little oil on the pan, because first batch tend to stick.
6. When finished, serve it warm with drizzled chocolate syrup, honey, maple syrup, condensed milk or even spread it with kaya. Nice to eat with a cup of latte at the side.

Top 7 mommy guilt trips – and how to handle them

As a mom to 5 kids and still counting, I couldn't avoid of thinking whether I've done a great job of being their main caretaker. I always think hard about it, every day, usually at the end of the day, when all of them were sleeping. I've tried so hard of giving my all in order to teach them to be smart, good, kind and well behaved children. I also tried to instill Islamic teaching in them although not to say that I am very religious, I wanted them to be successful here in this world and after life. 
Here, I listed 7 top mommy guilts and how to handle them and this was taken from my subscription from babycenter.com. All that are listed are very true to my experience and I couldn't help on feeling relieved that it's not just me who always felt guilty when doing those things. Read it, and give yourself a break, once in a while. These was written by Devra Renner and Aviva Pflock, co-authors of the book Mommy Guilt.

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Top 7 mommy guilt trips – and how to handle them

1. Feeding your baby formula

This usually happens to me when I have to wean my children, especially when I was pregnant with the a new baby, and my milk supply was reducing month after month. But life has to move on. I always cried when this happen andI always blame myself for getting pregnant too quickly but this doesn't mean that I hate the baby that's inside me.

If you're grieving the loss of nursing, allow yourself your sadness. But then accept that you did your best, and move on. Breast milk is best for your baby, but formula-fed babies are also thriving, nourished, and nurtured. As one BabyCenter mom says, "The best thing you can do for your baby is to be a happy mom — and if that means no breastfeeding, then that's the best choice for your family."

2. Using TV as a babysitter

This usually happens to me when the baby is sleeping and I need them to be quiet. I open their favorite channel of cartoon and minimized the volume and asked them to keep quiet and they'll listen to me happily. This also happens when I need some 'US TIME' with my hubby. Hahahha... BUT, I never turn on the TV when they are having their meal, one of them are studying or when they behaved badly. TV for me is a reward and a break for them.

Is television really so evil? No, say Renner and Pflock: "Using television entertainment as a form of quiet time is perfectly appropriate." The key is moderation. If your child is under 2, keep viewing time to a minimum, and break it into 15-minute chunks. Watch with your child, and pick programs that are appropriate. If your child is older, see our TV guidelines for preschoolers and big kids. Then relax and send your guilt on its way.

3. Being environmentally unfriendly

Having lots of kids means lots of diapers, lots of shampoo, powder and bath foam bottles, toothpaste tubes (children's toothpaste are small and with 5 kids using it, you can imagine how much tubes are being disposed), formula milk's packet or tins, papers etc. Every time I threw the trash from our bin, it's like lifting a trash from a small restaurant. Just imagine how much trash I'm throwing. Not to count thrown leftover food that they refused!

This push and pull can lead to a nasty case of green guilt. Let this be a wake-up call — but know that letting guilt devour you won't do you or the earth any good. You may not be able to take public transportation to work, switch to cloth diapers, hang your laundry on the line, or toss out all your environmentally unfriendly cleaners right now.
Instead, focus on the dozens of achievable changes you can make. Try unplugging appliances when they're not in use, doing your laundry in cold water when possible, lighting your home with fluorescent bulbs, and other easy, earth-friendly tricks. Don't worry too much about the Greens next door — maybe someday soon you'll be giving them tips.

4. Feeding your kids junk food

I've mentioned this in one of my posts. It usually happens when I'm so tired to make healthier snacks or when I'm desperately need to calm them down. 

Sometimes we forget that fast food and junk food — while not usually the best nutritional option — isn't poisonous. As with television, the key is moderation and smart choices.

5. Leaving your child with another caregiver

I've not yet done this but the longest time I've left them with my brother and sister was a few hours, to do some groceries shopping. But this only happens once in w hile. Normally, I always tagged them along. But next week, my husband and I along with our 2 small children are going for a short trip to Kuala Lumpur. This is going to be my first time leaving my children to go somewhere far. Only God knows how guilty I feel, but we just couldn't bring all of them along because nobody can help me to attend them when we go there. It's safer for them to be at home.

But for those who have to send their children to a caregiver because they are working, remember that your work serves a crucial purpose. You know you're doing what's best for your family, whether you're working for financial reasons or because it makes you happy.

6. Yelling at your kids

Ahh.. This is a common scene at my home because it's so hard to be sane in a home with 5 kids! There's shouting, quarreling, nagging and crying. Sometimes, when talking slowly and sweetly doesn't help, I took a deep breath. But if this doesn't help either, yelling is a way to grab their attention PRONTO!

No one feels good about yelling at their kids. In fact, Pflock and Renner's survey of mothers found that yelling is the number one cause of mommy guilt.
When this happens, take a careful look at your own behavior. Was the yelling out of the ordinary? Are you usually calm with your child? If yes, then let yourself off the hook and take this as a learning opportunity for both of you. As Elizabeth Pantley says in The No-Cry Discipline Solution, "Even the most peaceful easy-going parent loses patience and yells from time to time."
Reassure your child that everything is okay, and explain what happened: "Sometimes people yell when they're upset. But that can hurt people's feelings. I'm sorry. It would have been better if I had said 'Please be quiet. The baby is sleeping.'"
But if screaming is becoming a habit, you may need to take action to manage your anger and reduce your stress levels.

7. Not being able to afford all the extras

When my children ask me to buy expensive toys or clothing, I felt guilty to watch their disappointment and crestfallen faces when I say NO. I just can't simply splurge on anything because having 5 kids, you need to make sure every body have enough. Besides, Islam teach us to live in moderation; WASATIAH. I don't w ant to spoil them and teach them to buy things because of their brand and high tag price. I want them to differentiate between NEEDS and WANTS. Every time they said that how they wish that we are very rich and can just buy anything off the rack, I'll tell them that being rich doesn't promised happiness. Maybe they are too small to understand it but somewhere, sometime, they'll get it.

But many of the things that we think of as "necessary" aren't. What kids really need is love — not the next expensive activity or "It toy." In fact, too much stuff can be a problem. "If you're constantly overindulging your children, they'll never learn the value of money," explains psychotherapist Kate Levinson, who leads workshops for women to explore their emotional relationship to money. "You also want to teach them how to enjoy life and solve problems in ways that don't have to do with buying things or using money."
Instead of focusing on what you can't give your child, focus on what he can have. For example, instead of the high-end music class, try a free class or library story time. If he loves to "cook" but you can't afford a play kitchen, help him make one out of a cardboard box. You'll probably feel your guilt drain away as you watch him happily banging on his new stove.

Just enjoy your children and be a happy mom because happy moms means happy child and this will make them grow to be a happy, responsible person.

Months In Islamic Qamariah Calendar

It's kind of hard to find complete Islamic material that can be teach to my children. So, starting from today, I'm going to post one at time, things that I found in the internet, that can be share among us which can be pass to our children. Knowledge is power.
Islamic months begin at sunset of the first day, the day when the lunar crescent is visually sighted. The lunar year is approximately 354 days long, so the months rotate backward through the seasons and are not fixed to the Gregorian calendar. The Gregorian calendar, also known as the western calendar or the Christian calendar is the internationally accepted civil calendar.

SOURCE: islam.about.com

Months In Islamic Qamariah Calendar


"The number of months in the sight of Allah is twelve (in a year) - so ordained by Him the day He created the heavens and the earth ..." (9:36).


1. Muharram - means Forbidden, one of the 4 months which it is forbidden to wage war or fight


2. Safar - means Empty or Yellow


3. Rabi'ul Awal - means First Spring


4. Rabi'ul Akhir - means Second Spring


5. Jamadil Awal - means First Freeze


6. Jamadil Akhir - menas Second Freeze


7. Rejab - menas To Respect, another holy month when fighting is prohibited


8. Sya'ban - means To Spread or Distribute


9. Ramadhan - means Parched Thirst, month of daytime fasting


10. Syawal - means To be Light and Vigorous


11. Zulkaedah - means Rest, another month when no war or fighting is allowed


12. Zulhijjah - means Hajj, month of the annual pilgrimage to Mecca, no war or fighting is allowed
              

Ikan Tongkol Masak Lemak

This is what I cooked for lunch today. My kids really love fish, especially when they are cooked with some 'dup' (that's what they call the soup or kuah). ENjoy! If anybody would like to read this recipe in English, please leave a comment and I'll translate it for you. No worries.

                        Ikan Tongkol Masak Lemak Diva


Ikan tongkol seekor, dipotong kecil
Bawang besar, bawang merah, bawang putih dan halia dikisar
3 sudu besar serbuk kunyit
1 cawan santan
2 cawan air
Garam, gula secukup rasa
1 sudu besar serbuk cili
2 biji cili besar, dipatah-patah kecil


1. Tumis semua bahan kisar dan cili sehingga wangi.
2. Masukkan serbuk kunyit dan cili. Tumis hingga pecah minyak. Masukkan santan.
3. Setelah santan mendidih, masukkan air. Tambahkan perisa.
4. Setelah kuah mendidih, masukkan ikan tongkol dan biarkan sampai masak. Jangan biarkan terlebih masak atau ikan tersebut akan hancur.
5. Hidangkan bersama nasi panas. Yummy!

A SONG FOR WIFE

This song can really gets into your heart the instant you listen to it. It's so comforting and kind of giving you a euphoric sensation. It's a song from a husband dedicated to a wife by Ahmad Bukhatir entitled Zawjati.



Lyrics and translation SOURCE: www.dawaholic.blogspot.com

Zawjati (My Wifeeey...)
“Uhhibuki misla maa anteee” I love you the way you are,
“Uhiibuki kaifa ma kunteee” I love you the way you were,

“Wa mahma kaana ,mahaa saara“ No matter what did or will happen
“anti habeebati anteee” You are and will be My Darling.

“Zawjateee…” My Wifeeey…

“anti habeebati anteee” You are and will be My Darling.

“Uhhibuki misla maa anteee” I love you the way you are,
“Uhiibuki kaifa ma kunteee” I love you the way you were,

“Wa mahma kaana ,mahaa saara“ No matter what did or will happen
“anti habeebati anteee” You are and will be My Darling.

“Zawjateee…” My Wifeeey…

“halaali anti laa akhshaa adulan…an numaqteee…” You're my rightful wife, I don’t fear sin… I don’t care not about those who like to reproach and irritate me.
laqad azina zamaanulana bi wuslim ghayri mumbatteee” It is our destiny to be Together eternally.

“Saqaytil hubba fi qalbi bi husnil fa a’li was-samti” In my heart you instilled love With grace and good deeds.
“yagheeb-us’-sa’adu innibti” Happiness vanishes when you disappear,
“Wa yasful a’yshu inji ti” Life brightens when you're there.

“nahaari kaadihum hatta izaa ma a’ttulil baytee” Hard is my day Until you return home.
“Laqituki fanjala anni duna ya izaaa tabassamteee” Sadness disappears When you smile. J

“Uhhibuki misla maa anteee” I love you the way you are,
“Uhiibuki kaifa ma kunteee” I love you the way you were,

“Wa mahma kaana ,mahmaa saara“ No matter what did or will happen
“antee habeebati anteee” You are and will be My Darling.

“Zawjateee…” My Wifeeey…
“antee habeebati anteee” You are and will be My Darling.

“tagiku bi al hyaatu iza bi aa yauman tabarramti” Life turns black When you're upset,
“fa asssaa jaahidan hatta aw haqqi qaamaa tamannaytee” So I work hard To make your wish come true.

“anaaee anti fal tanay bi jifhil hubbi maa ashtee” You're my happiness. May you be happy forever.
Fa roohanaa qadi talafa ka mislil ardhi wa annabteee Our souls are united Like soil and plants.

“wa amali wa Yaa sakaanee Yaa unsi wa mulhimateee” ”You're my hope, my peace My good company and inspiration.
“yatibul a’eshu mahmaa daaqatil ayyaamu intibteee” Life is good, no matter how hard it is, When you're fine.

“wa amali wa Yaa sakaanee Yaa unsi wa mulhimateee” ”You're my hope, my peace My good company and inspiration.
“yatibul a’eshu mahmaa daaqatil ayyaamu intibteee” Life is good, no matter how hard it is, When you're fine.

“Uhhibuki misla maa anteee” I love you the way you are,
“Uhiibuki kaifa ma kunteee” I love you the way you were,

“Wa mahma kaana ,mahaa…saaraa“ No matter what did or will happen
“anti habeebati anteee” You are and will be My Darling.

“Zawjateee…” My Wifeeey…

Girl Killed Herself After Dad Posted On Wall ---> SCAM!!!

I notice that my wall is full of this so called Girl Killed Herself After Dad Posted On Wall status of my friends. i was very curious so after googling it, I felt that I have to share this to all of you, Facebookers because sharing is caring.

SOURCE:  http://nakedsecurity.sophos.com/2010/09/24/girl-killed-dad-posted-wall-spin-facebook-scam/

NOTE: This article was first posted in September 2010, but continues to receive a high amount of traffic as malicious scammers continue to use the story of a girl killing herself to spread their campaigns across Facebook. The scams use a variety of techniques and variations of the disguises to maximise their chances of tricking people into taking surveys or handing over personal information.

Be sure to join the Sophos group on Facebook to learn about the many different scams which are spreading, and share warnings with your online friends.

And now back to the original article from September 2010..

For a few days we've been monitoring a new spin on a Facebook scam, that claims a girl killed herself on Christmas Eve after her dad posted a message on her wall. Before we've documented both the related hoax warnings spread on Facebook, as well as scam pages that popped up trying to trick users into "liking" them, and the truth about the real woman's death that has been exploited by heartless cybercriminals.

The latest scam is spreading virally, tricking users into liking pages which claim to offer you access to the "horrific wall post" that allegedly made a girl kill herself on Christmas Eve.

Girl killed herself, after her dad posted This to her Wall

If you click on the link then you are taken to a Facebook page which says you have to like it in order to view the father's alleged message. In some cases, the page will use clickjacking techniques to trick you into sharing the page as a status update with your online friends, but the end result is the same - you'll be directed to a webpage which asks you to complete a survey.

And that's what makes money for the scammers who create these pages.

So all that needs to be done is for Facebook to clean up the offending pages, educate their users about these types of scams, and police the community better in future to stop yet more scams popping up.

A quick search on Facebook found these "girl killed herself" pages popping up like mushrooms on the site.

Come on Facebook, can't you get a handle on this?

If you believe you may have been hit by this attack, view the recent activity on your news feed and delete entries related to the above links. Furthermore, you should view your profile, click on your Info tab and remove any of the pages from your "Likes and interests" section.

You should also check which third party applications you have allowed to access your profile, and revoke the rights of anything suspicious viaAccount/ Privacy Settings/ Applications and Websites.