Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Disgusting Incest News

I was reading online newspaper and I was kind of shocked to see two news of incest (sumbang mahram) today just in one newspaper. It seems like incest is getting common in our society especially in Muslim society itself. According to Wikipedia:

Incest is sexual intercourse between close relatives[1][2] that is illegal in the jurisdiction where it takes place and is conventionally considered a taboo. The type of sexual activity and the nature of the relationship between people that constitutes a breach of law or social taboo vary with culture and jurisdiction. Some societies consider incest to include only those who live in the same household, or who belong to the same clan or lineage; other societies consider it to include "blood relatives"; other societies further include those related by adoption or marriage.[3]

Incest is illegal in many jurisdictions. The exact legal definition of "incest," including the nature of the relationship between persons, and the types sexual activity, varies by country, and by even individual states or provinces within a country. These laws can also extend to marriage between subject individuals.


The Quran gives specific rules regarding incest, which prohibit a man from marrying or having sexual relationships with:
  • his father's wife (his mother,[74] or stepmother[75]), his mother-in-law, a woman from whom he has nursed,[74]
  • either parent's sister (aunt),[75]
  • his sister, his half sister, a woman who has nursed from the same woman as he, his sister-in-law (while still married to her sister),[74]
  • his niece (child of sibling),[74]
  • his daughter, his stepdaughter (if the marriage to her mother had been consummated), his daughter-in-law.[74]
The main differences (apart from relationships between a man and his daughter) are:

  • a woman from whom he has nursed
  • a woman who has nursed from the same woman as he
  • niece

Hadith also prohibits marriage to a woman and her parent's sister at the same time.[76] The same applies for a woman with the male counterparts to the aforementioned.

This is a serious matter because a lot of incest cases are usually a form of child abuse because most of the victims are children . This is saddening because the crime is committed by their own paternal father, though there are cases committed by the stepfather. A father is suppose to be the keeper and the leader of his family not someone who ruins the future of his family especially the children. I'm very disgusted by the incest news that I don't think I can respect men without them showing their true colors. 
So, to all mum and wives out there, take care of your children. This doesn't mean that you should accuse your husband of doing something illegal but know your husband inside and outside. And to those who are not yet married, discover the real man out of your soon-to-be-partner before moving on to marriage. May Allah bless us all with good spouses and happy family. Amin.

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